Couples Therapy in California
Heal Attachment Trauma and Deepen Connection
You care about each other, but lately, something feels off. Maybe conversations lead to misunderstandings, the same arguments keep resurfacing, or the emotional distance between you keeps growing. One of you might crave closeness while the other pulls away. Or conflict feels so overwhelming that shutting down seems easier than speaking up.
It’s painful when the person you love feels out of reach.
If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone, and your relationship isn’t broken. These patterns often have deep roots. Early attachment wounds, past relationship experiences, and the ways your nervous systems protect you can all affect how you connect.
The good news?
These patterns can shift.
Couples therapy can help you move from survival mode to a space of emotional safety, trust, and connection.
Understanding Attachment Trauma in Relationships
Have you ever wondered why some relationships feel so hard to navigate?
Often, unhealthy relationship patterns stem from early attachment wounds. When emotional needs aren’t met in childhood, we adapt. You may have learned to shut down, become overly self-reliant, or cling tightly to avoid disconnection. Even with well-meaning caregivers, emotional neglect, inconsistency, or lack of safety can leave lasting imprints.
These early experiences live in the body and shape how we relate. Without realizing it, your nervous system may still be on guard in relationships, reacting as if you’re back in that earlier pain.
What Is Attachment Theory?
Attachment theory helps us understand how early relationships with caregivers shape the way we connect with others throughout life. When those early bonds are secure, we grow up feeling safe, seen, and worthy of love. But if your caregivers were inconsistent, critical, or emotionally distant, you may develop insecure attachment styles that show up in adult relationships as:
Craving closeness but fearing abandonment
Withdrawing to avoid being hurt
Getting stuck in cycles of conflict and disconnection
How Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) Can Help
I specialize in Emotionally Focused Therapy, a powerful, evidence-based approach that helps couples understand the deeper emotions and needs underneath their conflicts.
In our work together, I’ll guide you to move from conflict to clarity, and from emotional distance to deeper connection. We’ll gently identify and transform old patterns, helping you create a more secure, emotionally connected relationship
Through EFT, I help couples:
Identify and shift the patterns that keep them stuck
Rebuild emotional connection and trust
Express vulnerable emotions without blame or shutdown
Deepen intimacy and secure connection
Heal past wounds with empathy and care
EFT doesn’t just explore surface-level issues. It helps couples understand the unconscious patterns that drive emotions and behavior.
Common Issues I Support Couples With
Feeling distant, unheard, or emotionally disconnected
One partner feeling overwhelmed while the other appearing disconnected and withdrawn
Trust issues in the relationship
Arguments that escalate quickly or never feel fully resolved
Parenting stress or life transitions
Cultural, identity differences, or family pressures impacting your bond.
No matter what you’re facing, couples therapy can help you reconnect and feel more supported in your relationships.
A Safe, Supportive Space for Both of You.
A Safe, Supportive Space for Both of You.
I create a warm, supportive space where both partners feel heard and supported. My role is to help you understand each other more deeply, repair trust, and build a new way of relating. We’ll explore what’s really going on beneath the surface and work toward a stronger, more secure connection.
You don’t have to keep repeating the same painful cycle.
You’re here because you care.
Whether you’re hoping to heal, reconnect, or grow closer, I’d be honored to support you both.
